I can definitely understand that. I was not poor or in extreme poverty (homeless etc) but instead working class, which is paycheck to paycheck. With such precarity comes with it a set of anxieties that are problematic mentally and beyond for all classes that are not born into the upper middle class (21st century US definitions) and higher. But still, I think it's unfair to equate that growing up among the lower classes means that one's life is not good, or that children are automatically assumed to be burdens. This was your experience, I am sorry for that, it must have been hard. I can say that many middle class, rich and beyond people are unhappy, regret their children, and are menaces to their families and communities. My point here is that their class privilege does not afford them the right to parent. Their class privilege does not mean they are good people or caretakers who should be in charge of progeny. In fact, the upper crests often employ poor people to do the care labor they don't want to do or can't do (nanny, elder care, cook, birthing, etc).

This has become quite a discussion on morality and class!

My view is that the issue in your words is really with poverty, poverty is the problem.

This, if I'm reading you correctly, is the issue to be at odds with, not the mother or with families. What are the global and local conditions such that there exists vast social and economic inequality? Solving the very real issues of generational poverty is something I look to on structural levels, in my government. Humans have children, it is part of our species' birthright. It is painful to be at unease about one's life circumstances on some level. I have a very dear friend who wishes she was not born because she was born to an insane mother, whose lack of care put her and her sister in harm's way multiple times throughout her childhood--the repercussions of which are intense and long lasting. She is now a social scientist, and though she is away from her mother now, she still locates the issue not 100% on her mother (who was also raised in extreme circumstances of abuse and poverty) but on a capitalist system designed to keep people poor and suffering in order to exploit their labor.

I definitely do not mean to put people down for their lived experiences. I do however stand by cautioning any sentiments about human population control that are part of the great tragedy of attempts at genocide whether against the poor or those placed at the bottom of any class or racial hierarchy. My critiques are aimed at that hierarchy. We feel as we do, but the history of genocide is so fraught with malevolence and shows that it starts with ideas that governments should decide who procreates. It's a slippery slope, and one that has never worked out for anyone not in the high echolons of power.

Medium is a place for intellectual discussions. Yes. But sharing a story about our lives is one thing, touting population control measures for the poor and ill is another, more dangerous thing.

Athropologist, linguist, Afro-futurist, critical social theorist, public speaker, university teacher, market researcher, and performer. terukomitsuhara.com

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